Advice Needed

Published on April 14, 2005 By Ancient Wisdom In Personal Relationships

I was wondering if any one on the board has some advice to help me with a major problem I have in my life right now.

Four weeks ago my ex-husband came into my home while I was at work and took my kittens away to give to people he works with. He had been told NOT to touch them - but he still went ahead and did what he wanted - with the help of our rather vulnerable 14 year old. He had told her stuff like "You can't afford to feed and keep all these animals" - etc etc.

Anyway - there was a major family falling out over this - to the extent that our daughter - the 14 year old - has totally turned on me and has moved in with her father - really the worst place possible as both him and his parents (whom he lives with at age 46) does nothing but criticise and verbally abuse me in front of not just her - but my other two kids as well. He has now taken over custody of her because of the crap he has filled her head with - she hasn't spoken to me in four weeks - her attitude is that of its all like a game.

Im being treated for depression and am currently on anti-depressants because of all of this - and to be honest I have times where by I think if I took all my pills - what would happen? I know I have two other kids who need me - but to be honest life has been nothing short of horrible the past nine years - and I just can't cope any more. Even having a special man in my life isn't enough - Im really tired of all this - and for the next few months I really can't see it getting any better - in fact it may just get worse as I have been told that he is now entitled to claim child support from me - for a child that I have no access to - and who will have nothing to do with me.

Any ideas on ways I can beat all this - with out losing my marbles?

Many thanks,

Jasper

Comments

Dynosoar

on Apr 14, 2005

Long term planning.
1. Get some good outpatient therapy, and get off the drugs, they are an easy fault to point out.
2. I hate to say it, but if you don't have a lawyer, get one, and then get his advice as well.
3. Once you get your head right, get into family counseling with the kids, all of them

Unless you have some really scarry skeletons in your closet, once you get back on an even keel, no judge in this world will take custody from the mother. The key is your mental condition....

Good Luck........

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